Setting Boundaries at Christmas
The festive season can be a time for joy, celebration and coming together with loved ones. However, for those of us who follow a vegan lifestyle, it can also present challenges — especially when it comes to maintaining our dietary choices in a non-vegan environment. Setting and maintaining boundaries is essential for our well-being and peace of mind during this period.
Whether you know you’re facing negative comments about not having turkey on the table or you can already hear a parent quizzing you about your protein intake, here are five tips to help you navigate Christmas as a vegan.
1. Communicate Early and Clearly
One of the most effective ways to establish boundaries is to communicate your beliefs and needs early with your hosts or visiting guests. Let them know about your vegan lifestyle in advance and explain what it entails.
2. Offer to Bring a Dish
If you are visiting others, bring a dish so that you are comfortable and will have something to eat. Sharing vegan dishes can also be a wonderful way to introduce others to delicious plant-based food.
3. Prepare Responses
During gatherings, you may receive questions or comments about your veganism. Politely but firmly set boundaries if the conversation becomes uncomfortable. A simple response like, “I appreciate your curiosity, but let’s focus on enjoying the festivities together”, can help redirect the conversation. Remember, your vegan beliefs are coming from a place of kindness and compassion, and you don’t actually owe anybody an explanation; you can simply say, “I’d rather not talk about it.”
4. Pracise Self-Care
Navigating the season can be emotionally taxing, especially when dealing with differing opinions on lifestyle choices. Make sure you prioritise self-care. Take breaks if you need them. Walk away and listen to your favourite song or do a short breathing exercise before returning to the situation. Whether it’s taking time for a calming mindfulness session, a walk in nature or simply enjoying a moment of solitude with a good book, taking care of your emotional well-being is crucial.
5. Find Your Vegan Support Network
Seek out like-minded individuals or groups who share your vegan values. Connecting with a vegan support network, either online or in person, can provide you with a sense of community and support. Sharing experiences and tips with others in the same situation can be incredibly reassuring.
It can be difficult to set and keep to boundaries and they often need practice. The holidays are a time for joy and togetherness and being vegan doesn’t mean you have to compromise on these values. By setting clear and respectful boundaries, communicating effectively and prioritising self-care, you can navigate the festive season with confidence and enjoy a compassionate and joyful Christmas.
Elaine Ni Mhórdha of The Psychotherapeutic Coach is a psychotherapist, life coach and author. She is vegan and lives on an animal sanctuary. To learn more about her work, visit www.thepsychotherapeuticcoach.com or follow her on Instagram @the_psych_coach.
